5 Essential Hacks for a Professional Muslimah

A note for me to refer.
An article in productive muslim

Here are some of the ‘life hacks’ that have helped boost my productivity both at work and home. In sha Allah I hope it will also allow you to gain more control over your time to do the things that matter most in your working day:

1. Do a “Week Ahead View”
For me, preparation starts on most Sunday evenings. I start to plan and assess my forthcoming week, by doing simple things like looking at my calendar plans for the week for any important meetings or deadlines, to help me get a sense of what my week will look like. This allows me to factor in a ‘buffer zone’, which is the time needed to prepare for a meeting or travel somewhere. If I know that the week ahead will be particularly busy in meetings or other deadlines, then I am very careful to accept any ‘non-urgent’ tasks – sometimes it is better to say no! Additionally, I almost always leave my weekend for family and social events and try to divide my time between late evenings and early evenings at work, so I can spend quality time at home. This “week ahead view” also helps me to set my intentions and think positively about getting into the office at the start of the week with an action plan, instead of dreading that Monday morning!

2. Create Priority Task List
As soon as I get into the office, I write a task list for the day. Whether it is in the form of an (evergrowing!) to-do list, or using ProductiveMuslim resources like the Taskinator, having a hand written list to stick on your desk is an immensely helpful tool to keep your day focussed. Answering emails is a tempting thing to do as soon as you reach the office, but it might be helpful to extract key tasks from emails and add them to your task list. For example, our Content Co-ordinator, Sister Samira, checks her daily emails by reading the subject line and email preview, and tagging the most important ones, like articles she is expecting etc. This way, her most important emails stand out and she doesn’t get too bogged down with non-urgent emails.
Usually by the time the afternoon comes, you have all sorts of unexpected interruptions so it’s essential you get the most important task done, or at least started, in the morning. It is also useful to use breaks between tasks to catch up with colleagues (work-related talk only!) to give you an idea about what is going on in your organisation.

3. Don’t Forget Family Tasks!
As women, I share the pain that there isn’t enough time in the working day to take care of unmet family tasks, especially in the West where working hours tend to take a large part of your day. So in order to get tasks done for my family, I usually list any important family errands on my way to work like ‘call doctors to book an appointment’ or ‘pay bills over phone’ – I usually then complete these during my lunch hour, breaks or commute from work. This ensures the family-related duties are completed and are not forgotten in my list of priority tasks for the day.The worst thing is when you have been asked by your spouse or parent to do something and then forgetting to do it, or running out of time.

4. Get a Workplace Mentor
Since I got into the working world, having an experienced mentor has been invaluable. Most companies and organisations are very understanding and accommodating in giving new employees a mentor to shadow. My manager is a female who has 10+ years of experience and so alhamdulilah, she is more like a mentor than a manager. We have a very special relationship as she offers me advice on how to progress professionally, advising me on how not to make the mistakes she has made, right down to personal advice in my life choices which I truly value and cherish. Within 2 years of joining the company, I got a promotion and raise in my salary which was due to having a supportive mentor in my manager, alhamdulilah. Having someone who sees your work day in day out and can advise you to improve in certain areas of your career is essential for growth.

5. Pursue a ‘Passion Project’
It is essential to make time to pursue your passions and interests outside of work to boost your energy and creativity as a Muslimah! These are what I call ‘passion projects’ which are causes or projects outside of work, usually limited to 3 per year to avoid burnout! Having a hobby (sports, art, reading, knitting, baking, etc.) and volunteering are great projects to pursue, giving you something to look forward to during the working week. Throughout my working life I have always been involved actively in community projects and, of course, the best is getting to work with ProductiveMuslimah! Research has shown that when people lead lives with projects they care about without any incentive of being paid, they are motivated to do well in other areas of life including their paid work.
Last but not least, the best advice to a working Muslimah would be to make sincere dua to Allah for success in every aspect of your life, for barakah in your time and work, and to make you of benefit to the Ummah. This has undoubtedly helped me throughout my life, academic, working and family life. Ultimately, there is no success except by Allah.


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Ramadhan Mubarak!

Ramadan Kareem everyone.

As you may or may not know, this year Ramadhan is visiting us during summer, which InsyaAllah we will experience once more to fasting from 2.30 am to 10.15 pm. This year summer temperature is scorching hot  (max temp 26 degree today), but still, I am really looking forward to my favorite time of the year, Ramadhan.  I wish you all the best of this month, may Allah shower us with His mercy, rahmah, barakah and forgiveness, ameen.

Here is a valuable excerpt from productive muslim site, how to optimize this Ramadhan in the west. 

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So, I realized that I need that secret formula which will make my Ramadan a Productive one. Alhamdulillah I finally got it and I would love to share it with all you:

It is: Intention + Du’a + Planning + Persistence= A Productive Ramadan In sha Allah!

Now let’s crack the code:

1. Intention

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: “The reward of deeds depends upon the intentions and every person will get the reward according to what he has intended.” [Bukhari]

A pure and firm intention to making our Ramadan a productive one is the first and most important step. Until we truly want to spend this month in the manner our beloved Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) spent it, we will not be able to implement any of the following steps effectively. Make a sincere, firm intention NOW. Say it out aloud:

”I will iIn sha Allah spend my Ramadan seeking Allah (glorified and exalted be He)’s pleasure and doing deeds that draw me closer to Him”

The next time someone remarks about the long hours, smile and ask Allah (glorified and exalted be He) to make it easy for both of you and change the topic! Don’t dwell upon the long hours of the fast. Think positive. If Allah (glorified and exalted be He) willed it thus, He will bring us through it too. Didn’t we survive the Ramadan last year and live to tell the tale? Yet sometimes, it might seem hard to keep that intention pure and our spirits high. So when the going gets tough, remind yourself about the virtue (benefits) of what you are gaining in this blessed month. Sit in seclusion and start doing dhikr, make dua, read the ahadith about the benefits of fasting and if that doesn’t help then talk to someone and ask for motivation. If that doesn’t work, then listen to some lectures on Ramadan and read motivational articles.

2. Dua

The hours are long and the air dry. The only thing that will help us during these times is the Help of Allah (glorified and exalted be He) and His help is always a “dua away”. Start making dua from now. Ask Allah (glorified and exalted be He) to help you witness this month in all its glory and gather all the jewels that it has to offer.

• “Ya muqallibal quloob sabbit Allâh qalbee deenik.” (‘O You Who changes the hearts, make my heart firm on Your religion.’) [Tirmidhi]

and duas from the Qu’ran, which when you make in seclusion, with your heart totally focused on Allah (glorified and exalted be He), will In sha Allah make your heart strong and you will feel comforted and not alone.

• “Our Lord! Bestow on us endurance and make our foothold sure and give us help against those who reject faith.” [Qur'an: Chapter 2, Verse 250]
• “Our Lord! Take us not to task if we forget or fall into error.” [Qur'an: Chapter 2, Verse 286]
• “Our Lord! Lay not upon us such a burden as You did lay upon those before us.” [Qur'an: Chapter 2, Verse 286]
• “Our Lord! Impose not on us that which we have not the strength to bear, grant us forgiveness and have mercy on us. You are our Protector. Help us against those who deny the truth.” [Qur'an: Chapter 2, Verse 286]

3. Planning

Planning for Ramadan is the next equally important step, especially for people living in the West, who will experience these long hours as well as have their kids home for the summer vacation.

This can be broken up into 2 parts:

PRE-RAMADAN PLANNING

a) Get Your Eid Clothes and Eid Gifts Ready NOW: Look for your Eid clothes and if you order them online or ask your family back home to send it to you, then coordinate with them and get them ready and shipped to you now. You should have them before Ramadan begins or on their way. Don’t waste even a single minute deciding what to wear on Eid day. Go shopping now and get all the gifts shopped, packed and labeled for Eid. During Ramadan if you need to pick a few more, it won’t be a hassle, but buying so many will definitely be a waste of time and energy.

b) Plan Your Menu: Plan your menu for Ramadan now. Shop for and store all dry items that you will need. This will save you time, energy and money. Prepare and freeze items like patties and rolls at least 15 days before Ramadan. Cook and freeze meat curry for use in the first few days of Ramadan.

c) Analyze Yourself and Your Routine: Understand your routine, the times of the day when your energy levels are high and low, the times in the day when there are some errands that you have to run, like helping your husband get ready for work, or when your kids will need you. Optimize your high energy levels (which are normally after Fajr) for reading Qur’an. Start staying up after Fajr from now so that it does not become too difficult when Ramadan starts. Think of what you can do when your energy levels tend to drop. For example, fasting or not fasting, my low time starts after Dhuhr and goes up until 4 in the afternoon. So I plan to either sleep or if my children refuse to sleep, then I will listen to some lectures.

d) Organize Your Dua List: Mark and gather all the duas that you want to make in Ramadan. If they are not in one book, then create Word documents and get print-outs. Mark out the ones you will read after each salah, before breaking the fast, after Taraweeh and in your Tahajjud. Make separate copies and label them. You can also start memorizing some duas from now. Make a list of people you want to make duas for: some friends from long ago that you remember fondly, relatives etc. Keep your dua list or books right next to your prayer mat so that you don’t get lazy reading them if you are very tired.

e) Increase Your Stamina: Start eating less from now. Train yourself to stay hungry for a little more time each day. Exercise to increase your stamina. With the long fasting hours, small children running around and no family to help out, tempers rise very quickly on empty stomachs. Train your stomach and your anger controls of the brain not to work together.

f) Make a Goal List: Make realistic goals of how much Qur’an you want to read in a day. For example, if you aim for finishing one juz’ a day, then break it into 4 parts. Start reading it from before Fajr and end it by Asr or before Maghrib salah. Do dhikr when you are doing “anything at all” like doing your normal chores of getting ready for work, driving, cooking, cleaning etc. Eat a light meal at iftar to be able to perform Taraweeh. Aim for all 20 raka’ahs. Remember this is just for one month. Some friends took off work the last 10 days in Ramadan to concentrate on their ibadah (worship) or to do itikaf (uninterrupted worship in Ramadan). One research scholar used to stay in his lab until only an hour before iftar as coming home reminded his stomach to start growling. So he stayed in the lab where he could stay focused on his work and ibadah.

DURING RAMADAN

a) The Productive Muslim Tool Kit: Check out the Ramadan resources that Productive Muslim has to offer to make Ramadan easier and more productive.

b) Spend Time with Your Family: This is especially important for those of us living in the West, as our children will fast and meet friends in school who will ask numerous questions and might think they are weird for not eating! Mark out time, before or after iftar or before Taraweeh for some family time together to talk and listen to each other, or to simply “be” together.

4. Persistence

There will be times in a day especially during the middle of Ramadan, when your enthusiasm will dwindle. But DON’T GIVE UP. Make Ramadan buddies. It could be your spouse, your coworker at work or a friend or relative. Make your goal list together and if one starts losing steam for going for salah during office hours or starts slipping in attending Taraweeh, the other can pull him up. Encourage each other and achieve your goals together.
I pray that this Ramadan brings barakah in everything that you do and that Allah (glorified and exalted be He) showers His endless mercy on you and your loved ones always. May Allah (glorified and exalted be He) help us make our intentions pure, cleanse our hearts, understand our religion more and accept our deeds, Aameen!

Faith Friday

Ramadhan kareem

Assalamualaikum.

Alhamdulillah, I am grateful that Allah has given me another chance to meet Ramadhan. Again this year, Ramadhan fall during summer, I think this is great opportunity to really bermujahadah. Eventho summer, faham jelah di Glasgow almost every week is a wet week. It is raining almost every day. It really doesn't bother me even though my husband and I walk to uni every day, but there are a few days that we still go by bus if it is rain cats and dogs. The weather is cold, I really don’t get thirsty or even extra hungry. But a bit tired but I think that is common.

I normally reached home around 6 ish, fetched Muhammad and will rest for a while before joining tadarus online with Malaysian mate from 7 – 8. At 8.15 I will start cooking and usually I will just cook a simple menu, a main course and a dessert, but I will cook extra special during weekend. I tend to cook extra so that I won’t waste time cooking for sahur. I have done a bit research before Ramadhan, how to optimize it to the max. I conclude it as below

Making the most of Ramadhan  (From the perspective of a full time mom, full time wife, full time  student)

1. Shop groceries before ramadhan, but I just keep fresh everything so vegetable I will be buy weekly. - 
2. Dzikr everytime, or just recite alfathah. Lailahaillallah. SubhanaAllah. Astaghfirullah. 
3. Allocate just 1.5 hour to cook. 
4. Ramadhan is month of quran. Read quran everyday. with tafsir. 
5. Cook only once a day and reheat during sahur, so that I wont waste time. I can use that time to tadarus or tahajud.
6. Be nice be nice be nice.  Hear no evil. See no evil. Compete with each other to do good feed. Mana ada ruang berlumba lumba untuk membuat kebaikan. 
7. Smile. It is a part of sadaqah right!
8. Ikhlas ikhlas. Fi amanillah. 
9. Be patient. Bite my tongue.Sabar sabar sabar. 
10. I personally want to change my habit to a) waste my time on the internet 

So this is time to walk the talk. It is not easy. Berubah mungkin senang. Istiqamah, that is the hardest part. But I want to take the opportunity of this holy month to change from muslimah to mukminah. Ameen.

Till then

Refleksi

It has been a while since we tadabbur Al quran.

Harap tahun ni, within this 3 years dapat khatam setiap tahun, and every time I read, I will try to read it's tafsir as well. It's amazing. It has a indescribable lovely feeling in your heart like you read a love letter. Quran is indeed a love letter. A love letter from Allah!

Semalam saya baca A-li Imraan. Ayatnya, jatuh ke hati.

"Dan segeralah kamu mengerjakan amal amal yang baik, untuk mendapat keampunan dari Tuhan kamu,dan (mendapat) syurga yang luasnya seluas langit dan bumi yang disediakan bagi orang orang yang bertaqwa" (3:133)

Dan siapakah orang yang bertaqwa itu? Hati terdetik bertanya

Allah jawab terus dalam ayat seterusnya

"Iaitu orang orang yang mendermakan hartanya pada masa senang dan susah, orang yang menahan kemarahan, dan orang orang yang memaafkan kesalahan orang. Dan ingatlah, Allah mengasihi orang orang yang berbuat baik" (3:134)

Apa lagi ciri yang lain?

"dan orang orang yang apabila menganiaya diri sendiri, atau melakukan perkara keji, mereka segera ingat kepada Allah, lalu memohon ampun kepada Allah akan dosa dosa mereka, dan sememangnya tidak ada yang mengampunkan dosa dosa melainkan Allah, dan mereka juga tidak meneruskan perkara keji yang mereka lakukan telah lakukan itu, sedang mereka mengetahui (akan salahnya dan akibatnya" (3:135)

MasyaAllah..ayat ini, sampai ke hati. Membaca memang senang, rasa senang nak buat, tapi bila tanya betul betul hati, betul ke kita boleh buat, boleh ke kita bercirikan ciri ciri orang taqwa.

Menceritakan perihal sendiri, bagai membuka aib sendiri, sedangkan Allah dah tolong tutup aib, tapi Astaghfirullah. Susahnya. Kalau buat bullet point isi isi penting:

Ciri ciri orang bertaqwa (mengikut pemahaman secara direct)

1. Orang yang pemurah (masa senang atau masa susah)

2. Menahan kemarahan

3. Maafkan kesalahan orang lain (susahnyaa)

4. Orang yang sentiasa bertaubat sebenar benar taubat.

Pemurah mungkin senang, tapi menahan kemarahan. Alhamdulillah dah tua ni dah rasa semakin tenang, dah boleh belajar kawal kemarahan, emosi, tapi memaafkan dengan sebenar benar maaf. Ada orang cakap, forgive but I will never forget. Cewah.. Adakah itu dikira sudah memaafkan. Tak kisah lah pendapat orang pada kita macam mana, tapi pandangan, pendapat Allah pada kita? Kalau maaf tapi tak lupa apa orang buat, adakah tu Allah kira sebagai memaafkan? Allah..

Dan last sekali, taubat, dengan sebenar benar taubat. Dah tak nak ulang dah. balasannya, masyaAllah syurga. Yasmin Mogahed ada menyebut dalam talknya, akhirat tak sama macam dunia. Kalau di dunia, tidak ada yang hakiki. Kalau kita susah hati, contoh mak kita sakit, tapi dalam masa yang sama mungkin kita ada duit untuk bawak mak ke hospital. Dis ebalik susah ada senang, dan di sebalik senang, ada susahnya.

Di akhirat, kalau dah neraka, nauzubillah, seksaan setiap masa. Menderita. Tapi kalau ke syurga Allah rahmatkan kita, masyaAllah. seronok, bahagia. Tak terkata lah. Allah share dalam ayat seterusnya

"Orang-orang yang demikian sifatnya, balasannya ialah keampunan dari Tuhan mereka, dan Syurga-syurga yang mengalir di bawahnya beberapa sungai, mereka kekal di dalamnya; dan yang demikian itulah sebaik-baik balasan (bagi) orang-orang yang beramal" (3:136).

Jadi apa yang sebenarnya kita kejar atas dunia. Pandangan manusia? Kita cantik ke tak? Tudung kita lawa ke tak? Kita belajar tinggi ke tak? (berdasarkan mainan perasaan saya sendiri yang berfikiran dangkal suatu masa dulu). Semuanya lebih kepada pandangan manusia dulu, baru nak fikir apa Allah fikir pada kita.

Mari berjuang untuk syurga. Kerana syurga itu mahal harganya. Mari korbankan nafsu yang membabi buta. Tak kemana kita akhirnya. fight for jannah!

Petua untuk kekal istiqamah

A note from Wardina Safiyah.

Kata seorang rakan pada saya, “Hidayah perlu dicari, macam juga jodoh dan rezeki konsepnya Dina" .Benar sekali, hidayah tidak datang bergolek. Akan tetapi ramai yang cuma menanti hati mereka ‘dibuka’ tanpa sebarang usaha. Ramai yang menanti ‘seru’ hadir tanpa berbuat apa-apa. Seperti yang berkata “Aku nak kaya” namun duduk saja goyang kaki, tanpa usaha, maka mana mungkin harta turun dari langit begitu saja. Samada kita sedar atau tidak, setiap hari kita memohon hidayahNya. Setiap hari kita memohon Allah menunjukkan kita kepada jalan yang lurus. Berapa kali kita sebut, baca dan ulang dalam Surah Al-Fatihah. (ٱهْدِنَا ٱلصِّرَ ٰط ٱلْمُسْتَقِيمَ - Tunjukilah kami jalan yang LURUS) Berapa ramai yang benar-benar fahami dan bersungguh tatkala membacanya. Ini peringatan untuk diri juga!

Perkara yang paling menakutkan saya adalah apabila menyedari hakikat bahawa hidayah ini hak milik mutlak Allah SWT, Al-IIah, Ar-Rab, yang dianugerahkan kepada sesiapa yang Allah Al-Wahab mahukan. Allah Al-Hakim lebih tahu siapa yang berhak mendapat hidayahNya. Allah Maha Mengetahui kerana Allah itu Al-A’leem, Al-A’alim, siapa yang tidak patut memilikinya. Seperti bagaimana Rasulullah SAW sendiri memohon dan berdoa untuk bapa saudaranya, Rasulullah SAW merayu dan memujuk Abu Talib yang telah membantu baginda dengan masa dan tenaganya, dengan menjaga dan memeliharanya namun hidayah bukan di tangan kita. Itulah pengajaran yang paling besar. Itulah hakikatnya.

Hidayah kata Mufti Ismail Menk tempoh hari di dalam kuliahnya, perlu dicari dengan kesungguhan dan kepayahan. Struggle. Dengan keringat perjuangan. “Those who struggle in Allah’s way, the doors of Allah will open in their way” Mereka yang berjuang untuk ke jalan Allah, yang cuba dan berusaha akan dibukakan pintu kearahNya” InsyaAllah dengan izinNya, hidayah akan diberi. Apa dia kesan hidayah? Kesan hidayah ini maka kebaikan akan terasa mudah untuk dilakukan.

Saya simpulkan pengajaran yang saya perolehi mengenai bagaimana untuk kita terus Istiqamah setelah mendapat hidayah, ya walaupun sedikit. Semoga Allah yang Maha Pemurah, memberi lebih dan lebih hidayahNya kepada kita. Peringatan ini juga amat berguna untuk diri saya yang serba dhaif lagi jahil ini. Mustaqim dan Istiqamah asalnya dari perkataan yang sama. Untuk memastikan kita terus kekal Istiqamah dengan hidayah yang telah diberi, agar hidayah itu tidak hilang, lenyap dan sepi kata mufti Menk, ada beberapa panduan yang diberikan yang ingin saya kongsikan dengan anda semua:-

1) Pengajaran pertama - Jangan bimbang pandangan orang lain. Abu Talib ‘takut’ pandangan pembesar Qurasyh yang lain, begitu bimbang mengenai apa yang akan ‘diperkatakan’ setelah dia meninggal, sekiranya dia menjadi seorang Muslim, maka kerana ke’risau’an inilah yang menyebabkan Abu Talib tidak mengucap Syahadah.

2) Kedua - Istiqamah mengekalkan hidayah tidak akan berlaku sekiranya kita ‘menyibukkan’ diri menilai orang lain kata Mufti Menk. Bergossip membuatkan kita sibuk dengan hal dan aib orang lain sehingga terlupa menilai diri. Bergossip dan berkata buruk sudah cukup berdosa, apatah lagi mengaibkan dan memfitnah. Sibukkan diri mengenai hal diri, kekurangan diri, keluarga, anak-anak daripada orang lain. InsyaAllah Allah akan beri kita hidayah. Kedua, sibukkan diri dengan hal sendiri bukan orang lain.

3) Ketiga- Hidayah akan kekal sekiranya kita sentiasa i) Beristighfar dan ii) Bertaubat. Beristighfar bererti kita memohon maaf setelah tersedar dan setelah melakukan apa saja dosa dan kesilapan, namun bertaubat bererti kita kembali kepada Allah dengan memalingkan hati dan diri kearahNya. Beristighfar sahaja belum cukup, namun memalingkan diri kembali adalah kunci untuk mendapatkan hidayah, seterusnya mengekalkan hidayah itu. Kita PERLU dan mesti sentiasa beristighfar dan bertaubat, Allah memberi Taubah itu sebagai hadiah kepada hambaNya, bayangkan jika tiada konsep taubah? Oleh itu saya sering ingatkan diri, jangan berputus asa, teruskan perjuangan dan InsyaAllah Allah akan menunjukkan kita jalan yang lebih baik dari sekarang.

4) Keempat - Amalan yang berterusan. Lagi dan lagi. Tambah dan tambah amal. Bagaiamana? Dengan mengikhlaskan hati, mencari dan mencari dan mengikut contoh dari Rasulullah SAW

5) Kelima- Sampaikan kebaikan. Hidayah akan terkesan dan kekal sekiranya kita menjadi agen untuk menyampaikan kebaikan. Konsep Amal ma’ruf nahi mungkar ini dapat mengingatkan diri dan orang lain. Ya, marilah kita sebarkan kebaikan, kasih dan sayang, bukan kebencian, keburukan dan kejahatan! Walaupun sedikit! Sedikit dan sekecil biji sawi sekalipun ianya akan dinilai Allah Al-Hasib.

6) Keenam – Carilah kawan yang soleh. Pilihlah kawan kita, kawan atau rakan yang akan MENGINGATKAN kita sekiranya kita tergelincir. Rakan dan sahabat yang jujur memberi teguran. Seram sejuk apabila mufti memberikan contoh bagaimana nanti, apabila dibangkitkan kembali, sahabat karib kita akan menjadi musuh, bercakaran sesama sendiri, bertanya kepada kita – “kenapa engkau tidak menasihati aku dulu?” “Engkau tahu apa yang aku lakukan salah, kenapa engkau tidak ingatkan?” Na’zubillah. Mari kita ingatkan rakan kita, dengan penuh hikmah dan kasih.

7) Ketujuh – Hidayah akan kekal dengan Ilmu. Kita perlukan ilmu untuk berada di atas jalan yang benar. Terus dan terus dan terus tanpa henti menggali ilmu dari sana dan sini. Dari sumber yang sahih lagi dipercayai. Lebih banyak kita tahu lebih banyaklah kita tahu yang kita ini tidak tahu.

Pesanan mufti yang terakhir benar-benar membuatkan dewan tergamam tanpa suara. Untuk mendapat hidayah, kata mufti “JAGALAH MATA” Jagalah mata, kerana khuatir pandangan itu pandangan syaitan. Tundukkanlah pandangan. Saya sedang cuba mempraktikannya walau saya seorang wanita. Saya yakin para lelaki mempunyai dugaan yang lebih. Menjaga mata dengan tidak melihat dan menilai apa yang orang lain pakai, tidak melihat kereta apa yang mereka bawa, atau melihat kelebihan mahupun kekurangan. Kenapa? Supaya lebih kurang rasa ingin membandingkan diri dan mengata. Supaya lebih kurang iri hati dan dengki hinggap di dalam hati ini. Semuanya bermula dengan mata. Akan saya pegang nasihat ini.

Assalamualaikum,

What is your 2012 resolutions? I have a few.

• Generally, nak jadi muslim dan mukmin yang lebih baik. Jadi isteri yang lebih baik. (We have restarted solat maghrib and Isyak jemaah and bacaan quran + tafsir in between of the two solah). Will wear a loose clothes and covered chest hijab. Mengaji and selawat everyday. Bermuka manis setiap masa walau penat dan tensi terutama depan suami. Berlemah lembut dengan suami.
• Be a good mom to Muhammad. because he deserve a good mom! Begin with ajak Muhammad baca al fatihah dan 3 qul setiap hari, play with him eventho balik dari uni dah macam nak pengsan. Cook the best homemade baby food for him, discipline him and read read and read more how to bring up a soleh mukmin child. 

• Be a good cook. Nak pandai bake Red Velvet. Nak pandai buat macaroons. Nak gilap masak Briyani, Nasi Ayam Penyet, and Nasi Minyak. So balik nanti tak perlu re check buku recipe everytime nak masak. 
• Studywise - nak perform the best. Hantar report on time, analysis yang terbaik (tak buat lebih kurang) and at least have present at one or two conference. 
• Nak beli beg hitam putih a.k.a Chanel.

pengsan! kredit 

Moga Allah permudahkan. Ameen