Pages - Menu

Thursday, 29 May 2014

Cukuplah ALLAH sebagai sandaran


 Terkesan dengan kisah arwah Ahmad Ammar, pemuda yang disebut sebut, pemuda yang cintakan syahid,  kematiannya, kematian  yang menghidupkan. Menghidupkan hati hati pemuda lain. Ammar tidak dikenali semasa hayatnya, namun setelah kembalinya menemui pencipta, seluruh bumi bagaikan bersedih. Saya mencari cari artikel, talk, dan berbagai sumber, ingin mengenali arwah Ammar. Saya temui talk oleh parents Ammar di youtube, penulisan ustaz Hasrizal yang kenal agak rapat dengan arwah. Saya salin setiap satunya, bagaimana ibu ayahnya mendidik Ammar, pengalaman mereka, formula mereka melahirkan Ahmad Ammar.

Hati terkesan. Amat terkesan.

Saya belajar sesuatu dari pembacaan dan pencarian. Tentang ikhlas. Mudah menyebut,tapi aplikasinya, L. Payah nak didik hati, cukuplah kalau hanya Allah yang tahu.

Kalau memasak, mesti Tanya suami sedap tak (setiap hari!) nak suami cakap sedap. Sedangkan cukuplah Allah tahu yang kita buat yang terbaik untuk keluarga setiap hari.

Kalau buat labwork, bila menulis report, bila habis meeting, hati mesti berbunga bunga bila supervisor puji cakap excellent! good work! You are very good! Tidak cukupkah hanya Allah yang tahu segala kerja keras.

Kalau buat labwork susah susah, ada kawan ambil kredit, hati rasa terkilan kalau supervisor tak recognize. Tidak cukupkah hanya Allah menilai semuanya. Tidak senang hatikah kalau hanya sekadar Allah tahu.

Kalau tidak bersalah, tapi dituduh bersalah, tidak cukupkah hanya Allah untuk tenangkan dan bahagiakan hati, tidak cukupkah perhatian Allah kepada kita L

Allah menyebut dalam Surah Al An’am, ayat 59:

One of my favorite ayat, amat indah masyaAllah

Dan pada sisi Allah lah kunci kunci segala yang ghaib ada pada Nya; tidak ada yang mengetahui selain Dia. Dia mengetahui apa yang di daratan dan di lautan. Tidak ada sehelai daun pun yang gugur yang tidak diketahuiNya, tidak jatuh sebutir biji pun dalam kegelapan bumi dan tidak pula sesuatu yang basah atau yang kering, melainkan tertulis dalam kitabNya yang nyata 


Thursday, 24 April 2014

5 Essential Hacks for a Professional Muslimah

A note for me to refer.
An article in productive muslim

Here are some of the ‘life hacks’ that have helped boost my productivity both at work and home. In sha Allah I hope it will also allow you to gain more control over your time to do the things that matter most in your working day:

1. Do a “Week Ahead View”
For me, preparation starts on most Sunday evenings. I start to plan and assess my forthcoming week, by doing simple things like looking at my calendar plans for the week for any important meetings or deadlines, to help me get a sense of what my week will look like. This allows me to factor in a ‘buffer zone’, which is the time needed to prepare for a meeting or travel somewhere. If I know that the week ahead will be particularly busy in meetings or other deadlines, then I am very careful to accept any ‘non-urgent’ tasks – sometimes it is better to say no! Additionally, I almost always leave my weekend for family and social events and try to divide my time between late evenings and early evenings at work, so I can spend quality time at home. This “week ahead view” also helps me to set my intentions and think positively about getting into the office at the start of the week with an action plan, instead of dreading that Monday morning!

2. Create Priority Task List
As soon as I get into the office, I write a task list for the day. Whether it is in the form of an (evergrowing!) to-do list, or using ProductiveMuslim resources like the Taskinator, having a hand written list to stick on your desk is an immensely helpful tool to keep your day focussed. Answering emails is a tempting thing to do as soon as you reach the office, but it might be helpful to extract key tasks from emails and add them to your task list. For example, our Content Co-ordinator, Sister Samira, checks her daily emails by reading the subject line and email preview, and tagging the most important ones, like articles she is expecting etc. This way, her most important emails stand out and she doesn’t get too bogged down with non-urgent emails.
Usually by the time the afternoon comes, you have all sorts of unexpected interruptions so it’s essential you get the most important task done, or at least started, in the morning. It is also useful to use breaks between tasks to catch up with colleagues (work-related talk only!) to give you an idea about what is going on in your organisation.

3. Don’t Forget Family Tasks!
As women, I share the pain that there isn’t enough time in the working day to take care of unmet family tasks, especially in the West where working hours tend to take a large part of your day. So in order to get tasks done for my family, I usually list any important family errands on my way to work like ‘call doctors to book an appointment’ or ‘pay bills over phone’ – I usually then complete these during my lunch hour, breaks or commute from work. This ensures the family-related duties are completed and are not forgotten in my list of priority tasks for the day.The worst thing is when you have been asked by your spouse or parent to do something and then forgetting to do it, or running out of time.

4. Get a Workplace Mentor
Since I got into the working world, having an experienced mentor has been invaluable. Most companies and organisations are very understanding and accommodating in giving new employees a mentor to shadow. My manager is a female who has 10+ years of experience and so alhamdulilah, she is more like a mentor than a manager. We have a very special relationship as she offers me advice on how to progress professionally, advising me on how not to make the mistakes she has made, right down to personal advice in my life choices which I truly value and cherish. Within 2 years of joining the company, I got a promotion and raise in my salary which was due to having a supportive mentor in my manager, alhamdulilah. Having someone who sees your work day in day out and can advise you to improve in certain areas of your career is essential for growth.

5. Pursue a ‘Passion Project’
It is essential to make time to pursue your passions and interests outside of work to boost your energy and creativity as a Muslimah! These are what I call ‘passion projects’ which are causes or projects outside of work, usually limited to 3 per year to avoid burnout! Having a hobby (sports, art, reading, knitting, baking, etc.) and volunteering are great projects to pursue, giving you something to look forward to during the working week. Throughout my working life I have always been involved actively in community projects and, of course, the best is getting to work with ProductiveMuslimah! Research has shown that when people lead lives with projects they care about without any incentive of being paid, they are motivated to do well in other areas of life including their paid work.
Last but not least, the best advice to a working Muslimah would be to make sincere dua to Allah for success in every aspect of your life, for barakah in your time and work, and to make you of benefit to the Ummah. This has undoubtedly helped me throughout my life, academic, working and family life. Ultimately, there is no success except by Allah.


- Posted using BlogPress from my iPhone

Tuesday, 9 July 2013

Ramadhan Mubarak!

Ramadan Kareem everyone.

As you may or may not know, this year Ramadhan is visiting us during summer, which InsyaAllah we will experience once more to fasting from 2.30 am to 10.15 pm. This year summer temperature is scorching hot  (max temp 26 degree today), but still, I am really looking forward to my favorite time of the year, Ramadhan.  I wish you all the best of this month, may Allah shower us with His mercy, rahmah, barakah and forgiveness, ameen.






Here is a valuable excerpt from productive muslim site, how to optimize this Ramadhan in the west. 

*********************************************************************************

So, I realized that I need that secret formula which will make my Ramadan a Productive one. Alhamdulillah I finally got it and I would love to share it with all you:

It is: Intention + Du’a + Planning + Persistence= A Productive Ramadan In sha Allah!
Now let’s crack the code:

1. Intention


The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: “The reward of deeds depends upon the intentions and every person will get the reward according to what he has intended.” [Bukhari]
A pure and firm intention to making our Ramadan a productive one is the first and most important step. Until we truly want to spend this month in the manner our beloved Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) spent it, we will not be able to implement any of the following steps effectively. Make a sincere, firm intention NOW. Say it out aloud:
”I will iIn sha Allah spend my Ramadan seeking Allah (glorified and exalted be He)’s pleasure and doing deeds that draw me closer to Him”
The next time someone remarks about the long hours, smile and ask Allah (glorified and exalted be He) to make it easy for both of you and change the topic! Don’t dwell upon the long hours of the fast. Think positive. If Allah (glorified and exalted be He) willed it thus, He will bring us through it too. Didn’t we survive the Ramadan last year and live to tell the tale? Yet sometimes, it might seem hard to keep that intention pure and our spirits high. So when the going gets tough, remind yourself about the virtue (benefits) of what you are gaining in this blessed month. Sit in seclusion and start doing dhikr, make dua, read the ahadith about the benefits of fasting and if that doesn’t help then talk to someone and ask for motivation. If that doesn’t work, then listen to some lectures on Ramadan and read motivational articles.

2. Dua

The hours are long and the air dry. The only thing that will help us during these times is the Help of Allah (glorified and exalted be He) and His help is always a “dua away”. Start making dua from now. Ask Allah (glorified and exalted be He) to help you witness this month in all its glory and gather all the jewels that it has to offer.
  • “Ya muqallibal quloob sabbit Allâh qalbee deenik.” (‘O You Who changes the hearts, make my heart firm on Your religion.’) [Tirmidhi]
and duas from the Qu’ran, which when you make in seclusion, with your heart totally focused on Allah (glorified and exalted be He), will In sha Allah make your heart strong and you will feel comforted and not alone.
  • “Our Lord! Bestow on us endurance and make our foothold sure and give us help against those who reject faith.” [Qur'an: Chapter 2, Verse 250]
  • “Our Lord! Take us not to task if we forget or fall into error.” [Qur'an: Chapter 2, Verse 286]
  • “Our Lord! Lay not upon us such a burden as You did lay upon those before us.” [Qur'an: Chapter 2, Verse 286]
  • “Our Lord! Impose not on us that which we have not the strength to bear, grant us forgiveness and have mercy on us. You are our Protector. Help us against those who deny the truth.” [Qur'an: Chapter 2, Verse 286]

3. Planning

Planning for Ramadan is the next equally important step, especially for people living in the West, who will experience these long hours as well as have their kids home for the summer vacation.
This can be broken up into 2 parts:

PRE-RAMADAN PLANNING


a) Get Your Eid Clothes and Eid Gifts Ready NOW: Look for your Eid clothes and if you order them online or ask your family back home to send it to you, then coordinate with them and get them ready and shipped to you now. You should have them before Ramadan begins or on their way. Don’t waste even a single minute deciding what to wear on Eid day. Go shopping now and get all the gifts shopped, packed and labeled for Eid. During Ramadan if you need to pick a few more, it won’t be a hassle, but buying so many will definitely be a waste of time and energy.

b) Plan Your Menu: Plan your menu for Ramadan now. Shop for and store all dry items that you will need. This will save you time, energy and money. Prepare and freeze items like patties and rolls at least 15 days before Ramadan. Cook and freeze meat curry for use in the first few days of Ramadan.

c) Analyze Yourself and Your Routine: Understand your routine, the times of the day when your energy levels are high and low, the times in the day when there are some errands that you have to run, like helping your husband get ready for work, or when your kids will need you. Optimize your high energy levels (which are normally after Fajr) for reading Qur’an. Start staying up after Fajr from now so that it does not become too difficult when Ramadan starts. Think of what you can do when your energy levels tend to drop. For example, fasting or not fasting, my low time starts after Dhuhr and goes up until 4 in the afternoon. So I plan to either sleep or if my children refuse to sleep, then I will listen to some lectures.

d) Organize Your Dua List: Mark and gather all the duas that you want to make in Ramadan. If they are not in one book, then create Word documents and get print-outs. Mark out the ones you will read after each salah, before breaking the fast, after Taraweeh and in your Tahajjud. Make separate copies and label them. You can also start memorizing some duas from now. Make a list of people you want to make duas for: some friends from long ago that you remember fondly, relatives etc. Keep your dua list or books right next to your prayer mat so that you don’t get lazy reading them if you are very tired.

e) Increase Your Stamina: Start eating less from now. Train yourself to stay hungry for a little more time each day. Exercise to increase your stamina. With the long fasting hours, small children running around and no family to help out, tempers rise very quickly on empty stomachs. Train your stomach and your anger controls of the brain not to work together.

f) Make a Goal List: Make realistic goals of how much Qur’an you want to read in a day. For example, if you aim for finishing one juz’ a day, then break it into 4 parts. Start reading it from before Fajr and end it by Asr or before Maghrib salah. Do dhikr when you are doing “anything at all” like doing your normal chores of getting ready for work, driving, cooking, cleaning etc. Eat a light meal at iftar to be able to perform Taraweeh. Aim for all 20 raka’ahs. Remember this is just for one month. Some friends took off work the last 10 days in Ramadan to concentrate on their ibadah (worship) or to do itikaf (uninterrupted worship in Ramadan). One research scholar used to stay in his lab until only an hour before iftar as coming home reminded his stomach to start growling. So he stayed in the lab where he could stay focused on his work and ibadah.

DURING RAMADAN


a) The Productive Muslim Tool Kit: Check out the Ramadan resources that Productive Muslim has to offer to make Ramadan easier and more productive.

b) Spend Time with Your Family: This is especially important for those of us living in the West, as our children will fast and meet friends in school who will ask numerous questions and might think they are weird for not eating! Mark out time, before or after iftar or before Taraweeh for some family time together to talk and listen to each other, or to simply “be” together.

4. Persistence

There will be times in a day especially during the middle of Ramadan, when your enthusiasm will dwindle. But DON’T GIVE UP. Make Ramadan buddies. It could be your spouse, your coworker at work or a friend or relative. Make your goal list together and if one starts losing steam for going for salah during office hours or starts slipping in attending Taraweeh, the other can pull him up. Encourage each other and achieve your goals together.
I pray that this Ramadan brings barakah in everything that you do and that Allah (glorified and exalted be He) showers His endless mercy on you and your loved ones always. May Allah (glorified and exalted be He) help us make our intentions pure, cleanse our hearts, understand our religion more and accept our deeds, Aameen!


Thursday, 9 May 2013

Totally a new home :)







The clock struck 12 but I am still working on my blog layout.  I just submitted my big, significant report I just felt a bit relieved and thought it's a good time to repair my dusty,  abandoned blog. However, it turned to be I messed it up with coding and everything and I just decided to make a  new blog and move a few of my posts from my previous blog, but as expected I lost anything else, including lovely comments from my friends and readers. But, that' s fine. InsyaAllah khair. So here it is, my new blog, Student Mom :). Enjoy! 

Sunday, 2 December 2012

My long journey to the UK

As early as 15 year old, I got the thought of going abroad for higher studies. I was encouraged by my brother (Abg De), which introduced me to Edinburgh. However, at that time, I just dreamed  to become a medical doctor. So, in my secret book, I wrote; Edinburgh. UK. Doctor. It was always be in my dream to study in the UK. I was not a brilliant student back then, but I was extremely determined person and still am. Every term, I aimed for straight A’s.  Alhamdulillah, I scored straight A’s in my PMR, but not in SPM. Lucky me, in my exam slip there was no C or D. Just A and B, but, still not smart enough to secure a scholarship. So bye bye UK. Bye bye dream job.


I went to matriculation, managed to get 3.5 above and with my bff Yana, we applied for Royal College of Surgeon in Ireland. Two naive girls, walked miles and miles, chasing taxis and trains, and went to the interview. Alhamdulillah. I got the offer.5 years medical course at RCSI. Again, even though I managed to get the offer letter, I did not get the scholarship. Still. I went to UPM instead. No, I am not taking medical course and that time I realized how shallow my mind back then. I started to fell in love with lab techniques, western blot, cell culture,  I get to know biochemical pathways, genetic, and I just realize, biology is not just being a doctor. It is larger than that. I learnt about life a lot during my undergrad time. I love my course mate. We are still good friends until now.

 Final Year Trip to Genting. :)

 kak Fiza and Hafiz. A good friend of mine.

To cut a long story short, I did my Msc (fully research) at a local university. After 2 years, I finished my labwork, I got a decent job, with a generous pay (Alhamdulillah) when I was writing up my thesis. I still apply for scholarship. But now my dream is bigger, to do a doctorate at UK. I secured the scholarship, two times, and the offer from the university. However, the timing is not suitable. I was still writing up the thesis back then. I was gutted. For the first time in my life, I made up my mind, no more study application. I was tired already. The determination in me was all gone. I just felt secure with what I have. I was  a  lecturer with flexible working hours and I got a decent pay. I finally decide. Yes, this is what I want.  I fell in love with teaching. I was attached to my students, to my colleagues, to my boss. Plus, I am married to a wonderful man. We went to the mosque to listen to kuliyyah every weekend, we have a small but a convenient location home. We went back to hometown every month to visit our parents. I think, life is complete when my Gynae confirmed that I was pregnant. I have not thought about furthering my study, since we decided that time it was my husband turn to further his.

God works in a mysterious way. He wants to tell me that this is what suitable to you. I applied again when my bestie Mien encouraged me. I got fully support from my husband and my Father In Law and we got application results when I was in the labour room, fighting to deliver Muhammad. It is a YES at the right moment. Double joy! Nonetheless, it was full of struggles. I went to BTN when I was 8 month pregnant (it was still amazing though, there were quite a few of my friends were pregnant back then). We took his passport photo when he was 15 day old and fly to UK when Muhammad was 3 month old. He was a fighter like me and my husband .

Now I am here. Struggling. To quote my professor “MSc or PhD, is not the beginning that matters, but how you end it”. 

Till then,
Toodles!

Sunday, 25 November 2012

My other half's MSc graduation

Assalamualaikum.

Setahun JE dah siap dah? Senang jelah macam tu

I used to think like that before. Yelah, kita ni buat research, buckets of tears, weekend 24/7 (yes, you hear me right, I even worked on the weekend during my Msc degree), tengok orang lain setahun JE dah habis. 

What I haven't seen before is the struggles, struggles and struggles. When my husband got the chance to do his MSc here in the UK, now I know it's not easy. It's never easy!

At that time, both of us were students. My husband started his MSc on September while I was already started my research two months before. Allah tested us in many ways. Among the hardest part was struggling to find the nanny for Muhammad, not to mention husband had to skip classes when the lil one was sick because I had to do my experiments, in one year, we both walked  miles to the university (to save money on pass bus, which is quite pricey),  hubby's endless group discussions and presentations, and like every Friday we had to bring Muhammad to university during Jumaat prayer. Despite all the difficulties, Allah grant us easiness, with  the considerate and helpful friends that helped to look after Muhammad and  diamond-strong support from family, we certainly have strong support system.  Alhamdulillah with Allah's generosity, everything went well and praised to Allah, my loved one graduate with merit! Alhamdulillah!!

Thanks to my bro and sis in law who flew away from Cairo to celebrate this with our small family.





p/s: It was winter graduation. The moment we stepped out the Barony Hall, the sky was dark and it was freaking cold even though it was just 5 pm.
p/s: The graduation was on 16th November 2011.